What would you do if you were not afraid?
What would you do this moment if your fear did not stop you? I think it is extremely important to ask this question from time to time. The first things that have come to my mind at this moment in response to this question, in the actual implementation, in real life, would have changed my life from the foundation. So who would not be afraid of that?
Here is an example. Remember yourself after you finish high school. When you had to make a decision about the college, you are going to study. What did you really want? Does the choice make then make you happy today? Would you choose differently today? Would you choose that sincere first option that you hardly mentioned accurately because you were afraid of condemnation? Because you were afraid, that it might be too difficult for your abilities.
Are you afraid of the reactions and thoughts of your parents as comments on your seemingly odd choice? Were you afraid of arguing with them or even their rejection and prohibition of your choice? Many of the people I know have told me in the conversation that they really wanted to enroll in something completely different from the college they ended up in. Most people at the moment choose a college they like and which meets the criteria of their parents. And they’re good at that college, more or less. And you got a diploma in the end. For your whole life. But they did not choose their real first option. And they remember that often. I think that is a serious thing. Because if you have chosen something else, who knows what you would be like today. What if you were luckier in that second life? And what then?!
I had to drink a little Coca-Cola to come to myself from this psychoanalysis. I panicked for a moment. Nevertheless, let us go further. We have finished stupid college. We do not work in our profession or we work in our profession, but we really do not want to be of that profession. On the other hand, we want to work in our profession, but that does not go as we planned. Our job is a huge part of our lives. It takes up a lot of our time. Takes up most of our time. Should not we then do something that makes us joyful? Maybe do something in private where there will be no boss hanging around our neck? You choose your associates and employees. You create an atmosphere, to your degree. But going into a private business means just one – fear. This big step carries a big financial risk, as well as numerous other risks. In people, this idea always provokes fear. Fear of failure. From the complete crack and broke. Imagine not doing your current job but doing something, you really love doing. And that you can live decently. Would not that be pure happiness? What if we fear forever to remain in the workplace a place that does not fully meet us? What is the worst thing to do if you go to something new? In some business adventure…
However, I think the biggest sh*t happens because of fear in love field. Nobody likes to wonder if the person with whom we share a bed with is the right one for us. I do not want to enter into the complexity of love relations because today there are faculties that deal with this and I have not studied that. But I think the fear of the broken heart, for example, has influenced many decisions made about love during our lives. Fear of rejection. Fear of sorrow. Fear of loneliness? Fear of Mutual Emotional Sincerity? There are fears to count on … Absolutely every one of us has escaped from love once in our life solely because of fear. Not relevant when. It certainly happened. How would our life go if we went in the other direction? Would this lead us to a completely different person? What if that person was ideal for us? These are not pleasant questions to ask ourselves.
But this is not just about decisive life choices here. Fear affects our many every day, seemingly banal, decisions. What if our fear prevents us from living?
If you thought I would give you some inspiring suggestion, advice or solution at the end of the text, I must disappoint you. Again. I just wondered if others ask such things. Or is it just me…
P.S. However, once I had a T-shirt that read: “There is nothing to fear but fear itself.” I was a little girl. I thought this super quote was the meaning of X-nation. It is a good quote. It should be more commonly used in practice.
“My name is Marta. I am almost 32, only 5 more days untill my birthday. I originaly come form Croatia, but moved to Ireland three years ago due to a job. I am married to a musician and my passion include writting, photographing and dancing. Also obsessed with reading books. My blog is personal diary that was created to express my thoughts and feelings about everything and anything. To shear my favored recipes and to maybe make a world a better place for myself and hopefully others.”
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